Thursday, August 14, 2008

Baruch Dayan Ha'emes

Thursday morning, 13 Av, 3:00 am, Hashem took back our Rochie, claiming his, and what was most precious to us. Words cannot describe...

ובלע המות לנצח
"And Hashem will annihilate death forever and will wipe the tears from upon every face."

When will this darkness end...


Anonymous said...

All of us who were lucky enough to know Rochie, knew her as an example; a model of living, loving and selfless giving. We all know life ain't easy; but in situations where others may have taken the easy way out, saying "I give up! This isn't fair! Why me?!" - Rochie just took it in stride, never loosing sight of the big picture. Complaining just wasn't her thing.

Now Rochie, now you've been taken from us. Who can fathom such a thing?... Rochie.... you never asked for anything for yourself, all you ever wanted to do was care for your husband and children, to raise a strong faithful home in Israel. Nothing else mattered... money, status, luxury, that was for the rest of the world to chase. You saw through it all. Just to be with Yosef Yitzchok... just to be with him... if that was too much to ask, then what isn't?!!!

Who can accept this tragedy?! Who can say "Blessed is the true judge" for he knows best. Who has the faith to continue? to smother the pain and forge ahead. You Roch... you'd know how.
You exemplify courage.
Of all people, this inexplicable calamity fell upon you. This is so unreal, unreasonable. Something only you would know how to accept...

Rochie Zisskeit, you continue to give us strength. It's hard. Our insides feel vacant, abandoned. But we know you are there, pushing us forward.

Forever you will live in our hearts. Showing us the way forward, as you always did, with your humble actions that spoke more then a thousand lectures; "Ani lo nivraisi ela lishamesh es koni".

You were a Tzadeikes, plain and simple. The world will miss you for all the good you did and can no longer do, for all the smiles it will no longer see, for all the light that will cease to shine. But I'll just miss you Roch, i'll just miss seeing you being you.

I miss you Roch, but in truth that is a misstatement. I miss US. the way you completed us, making the family whole and strong. The way you made things right... oh so blessedly normal. The way you knew, the way you understood.

It'll never be the same... but we won't let you down Roch, you won't let us let you down..

Anonymous said...

Today, the Jewish Girls Club in Toms River met for our weekly Jewish scrapbooking class that we recently started for Rochie. We will continue this in Rochie's memory.

The girls that attend go to different public schools and don't have Jewish kids in their class. Our goal is that the girls should develop friendships with other Jewish girls and that they should be proud of their Jewish heritage.

Words can not describe the pain and the loss we feel. I will always cherish my friendship with Rochie. Rochie was my best friend for as long as I can remember. She was always there for me and I feel so lucky to have been her friend. I can't wait to see her again with the coming of Moshiach.

To see the picture of our launch group, click on my name, or go to

Anonymous said...

A song I made up addressed
to Yosef Yitzchak, Sheyichye,
TTO Beinoni Niggun (use your creativity :)
No words can describe your mother
for her soul is gentler than words
No love can replace your mother's
for her love for you is forever

She would take you to 770
would hold you tight & smile sweetly
her care and love was palpable
Now in Gan Eden she's watching over you

chorus:And I know she's crying with you
rejoicing with Nachas from the Mitzvos you do
and she'll never stop demanding
for the coming of Moshiach Tzidkeinu

And then you'll run right to her
hug her tightly and smile broadly
because you'll know that you fought with her
to have her back with Moshiach Tzidkeinu
(Right Now! Ad Mosai!)

Anonymous said...

check out the Hayom Yom of 13th of Av and see how appropriate...

Anonymous said...

Baruch Dayan Emes!! We need Moshiach right now!

Anonymous said...

I'm devastated. I know that we have to believe it's all good but it's so hard this time. I was already dreaming of the grand wedding-like seudas hodaah that we'd all attend. We'd show Rochie the long list of hachlotas and tehillim group lists....
Rochie was strong and that's what we have to right now even though it's so blinding.

Anonymous said...

With deep pain,
Hamokom yenachem eschem besoch shaar availai tziyon veyerushalayim

from, Tsemach & Esther Chana Narboni (Schutzberger)

Anonymous said...

After reading the words of her husband and brother, I find my lips sealed by their sorrow and strength. Nothing says more for her greatness than the feelings and strength that her memory can bring out in those closest to her.

I am made dumb. All that I can offer are my tears... and my subsequent strength, learned from the ripples of strength spreading outwards.

Anonymous said...

I'm reading this with tears pouring down my face. There are no words to express the pain I feel for all of her family and for everyone who knew her.
HaMakom yenachem eschem bsoch sharrei avlei Tzion v'Yerushaliem.